A lesser known form of therapy - Dialectical Behavioural Therapy [DBT] teaches us that our thoughts are valid. They are not wrong, or dirty, or need to be trained out of. Our thoughts are there for a reason, of course they are valid.*
We are often told that we shouldn't feel scared/worried, we shouldn't be sad, upset or angry. This usually comes from people who are saying we are 'over-reacting' or 'making a big deal out of nothing' and the infamous 'it's more scared of you than you are of it' [this one makes me feel... challenging emotions].
Here's the thing, there was a trigger, therefor there was an emotion, subsequently a response [physical/verbal or otherwise]. This emotion is normal, this is valid, don't let anyone tell you it isn't! However, you reaction may not be, if you are someone who feels like they over-react to situations, you're not alone. Here's a little information that might be able to help you.
It's a little difficult to grasp at first but when you get it you get it.
The emotion is valid, the feeling is valid, you are allowed to feel whatever you want. There is a reason for that feeling so... feel it. The problem is the action or reaction may not be equivalent to the circumstance. This is where mindfulness comes in. If you can learn to master your responses to your emotions, it could change your life!
This is much easier than re-wiring your brain and your thoughts and it allows you to feel like you're not wrong or weird or crazy for thinking a certain way. This is based on the Buddhist concept of acceptance. Using mindfulness to recognise your thoughts and allowing them to pass without judgement or without a reaction.
There are many different activities which I invite clients to do to help in situations where they feel as thought they overreact, so if you're interested then shoot me a message! I suggest trying meditation and journaling to start off with [morning/night, everyone has 5 minutes!!!]
My next blog is about Mindfulness and the different forms it comes in! I will also be recommending my favourite forms of mindfulness, apps I like and more, so stay tuned to check that out.
I hope this made you feel a little more normal!
So, answer to the title question... 100%
*This is not the case for serious conditions, please consult your doctor for more information as to whether this is applicable x
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